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Hello, Call me Joe.  I am a rather boring, normal person, except that I am a crossdresser.  Like many men who crossdress, I have tried to stop being this way and found out that it is not simple.

On this blog, I intend to provide a glimpse into my story/journey.  I will try to provide an unbiased view into being this way as I can.

There are three important traits about a crossdresser.  Here are mine:
1)  I am heterosexual.  (I have never had any homosexual thoughts or desires.)
2)  I like having male body parts.
3)  I do not imagine myself to be a female when I dress.

It is my understanding that most crossdressers share traits 1 and 2 with me.  I do not know any statistics, but I believe that I differ from many crossdressers in the third trait.

I do not know why I like to wear women’s clothes.  “Why” is the hardest question to answer in life.  If I had to commit to an answer, I would say I started due to the feel of the fabrics.  Later, the knowledge that I was wearing girl’s clothes became an attraction.  Somehow that was rewarding.  That attraction lead me to try on things that were pretty no matter how they felt.

I try to dress in such a way as to maintain my masculinity.  This is not an expression of my feminine side.  This is me being me.  I just have unusual fashion tastes — well, for a guy.

I still live in secrecy about my crossdressing, for the most part.  I go on outings occasionally.  I try to stay far enough from home so that no one I know will see me.  I only tend do things that a middle-aged parent would do.  I simply like to do it in a dress.

11 Comments
  1. Perhaps my blog will be of some assistance to you as I believe I understand the questions running through your head with regard to your individuality and your marriage. I would appreciate any comments (good or bad) The most important thing is this:
    Stay real and focused and find the balance be you and her.

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  2. jeremy permalink

    Hi,
    I’ve enjoyed reading your true accounts. I’ve done some of the same things as you and experienced some of the same feelings. I can tell you about some of my experiences through email. I assume you see my email with this post.

  3. TightsViking permalink

    I really relate to your blog…I am in a VERY similar situation and it’s very difficult as my wife is NOT accepting of this at all. I have worn openly a number of times and, surprisingly, have received several positive comments. I have also gotten the snickers/stares/point, but it feels like ME when I am out. I wear all men’s clothing except for shorter ladies shorts (I like to show off my legs…I must admit they are nice) and pantyhose/tights. I love my wife, but I also feel trapped.

    • I wish my wife understood me better and I would like for her to be more open to just sitting and talking with me about my crossdressing. However, I would not refer to myself as “trapped”. I suppose if she fully indulged my cravings, I would have made more foolish decisions until now. Perhaps her hesitation is a blessing for me! 🙂 I have found that if I try to tell her that I do not want to keep secrets from her that she tries to be reasonable and sit and listen.

  4. TightsViking permalink

    I am like you in that I don’t like the hiding. Trapped was a poor choice of words, but I am in between my crossdresser inclination and being honest. Unfortunately, my wife cannot “let it go” I have repeatedly assured that I am NOT gay and have no inclination toward it, but it doesn’t help… She has called me a favor and that hurts.

  5. David Parkman permalink

    Hi. I also share your 3 traits. I believe I look best in a skirt, nylons and heels. I’ve no interest in trying to pass as a women, I’m a man who likes to wear skirts. I just flew to San Diego and back and wore a skirt on the flight.

  6. Mark permalink

    Hi,
    Wow I am in a similar situation as you. I have had the chance to wear skirts and shoes though! I think I still love the pantyhose and panties. Not gay at all straight as we come – just like the soft things, things that are nothing more than apparel generally worn more often by women. My beautiful wife knows, has seen me wearing hose, has bought for me on quite a few occasions including panties to try. Has no “real” problem with me wearing, just not in front of people she feels should not know included are are adult kids. You rock dude wear whatever you like and yes…no one actually gives a damn on what others wear generally. Hope your wife accepts and understands soon.

    • Mark permalink

      correction – “I have had the chance to wear skirts and shoes though!” Meant to say I have not had the chance to wear skirts and shoes though! skirts I have once or twice and was an okay experience, never worn heels or anything like that (probably twist an ankle). I do offer encouragement to you and anyone else that will try or has got it right to wear heels. I will stick to flat shoes or gothic style boots or sneaker type of shoes. My attitude over the years is – I am not the 1st and will never be and thus am not alone in my interests! All the best to you and the other guys (and wives and families). Life is too short to live being unhappy and having regrets!

  7. Twerpy permalink

    I also share the three traits with you. I’ve worn skirts to Walmart, at midnight to 4 am. No one said anything about them.

  8. I just found your blog today. It is very refreshing. I share your three traits. I do, however, like to get fully dressed with boobs, wig and makeup when the opportunity presents itself. Most of the time I am partially dressed.
    I do get out once in a while and when I do I tend to fully dress but at my size (over 6′ tall and over 240 lbs with broad shoulders and even taller in heels) I do not pretend that I am a woman. I talk in my normal voice and I have the similar interactions and conversations as I would when dressed as a man except that about a third of the conversations may relate to my dress. Otherwise it will be sports, politics, etc.
    Since many of my outings are to safe places such as LGBT bars or lounges the odd part of being me is that I am totally hetero. and very happily married for over 4 decades. I have encountered several partial dressers. One fellow I met on my travels has longish gray hair an neat mustache and goatee beard but he wears some makeup, nice blouses, jewelry, hose and heels, sometimes with a skirt and other times with ladies cut slacks. Another fellow seems to be totally normally dressed with the exception of his stiletto pumps.
    I suppose it reallly does take all types.
    Pat

  9. sallees56 permalink

    First time I have seen your blog I can relate to all three on cross dressing. I certainly enjoy getting out. I would like to think I can pass relatively well although I know this isn’t always true. But it is my fantasy that I do most of the time. I dress to blend with a wig and makeup, which I really enjoy. Never really had a problem maybe a weird look once in awhile. I go pretty much shopping, malls movies, nail salons and the LGBT establishments. I am 5’10” at 165 lbs. So I guess I qualify as a medium to tall girl.
    I do get a kick out of getting out and I do like your blog Thanks

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